Dr. Paul Dasher, PHD 76 West Ridgewood Avenue, Ridgewood, NJ 07450

"He listened and care about the best interests for the kids"

"This is a man who I asked to evaluate my ex in court and agreed to also be evaluated so my kids were in the right hands, about 22 years ago claimed that my ex was not an alcoholic and that I in fact may be schizophrenic because I believe I can feel and hear spirits. Lol. I have had many drs and therapists and a psychiatrist I worked with for some depressive issues. Depression runs in my family. It’s a chemical issue handled easily with low dose antidepressants and therapy. I was honest when fighting to keep my kids safe. I’ve never been delusional or heard voices in that sense. No one telling me what to do etc lol I had police reports with police questioning if my ex was delusional or was he in something. I was NOT jealous of his new gf….I left him… as mr dasher claimed in his report for my reasons for wanting custody; this was such a horrible time in my life and we got no support here. My kids were feeling guilty that they told him when he asked how they knew he was an alcoholic, that I told them. I had to remind them that I told them to be honest and say how that feel and there is no reason to ever feel bad for being honest. Dr Dasher knew that already. I told him. Their therapist I CHOSE to take them too because I wanted them to understand because they were afraid at that time. And he was a good man and loves them and always did. Said to tell them the truth now. I wanted them to understand. Ordered books on the elephant in the room etc. she thought it was time they knew WHY he behaved this way and wanted them to understand it. My ex and I are very close always have been, even during this. He would lie to courts but ended up letting me call all the shots because he wasn’t trying to hurt them. Addicts lie. he just didn’t want to admit his issue. He’s sober over 15 years now I believe and my kids have always had a great relationship with him. I’d let him stay at my house with them so they were safe and still had him. I took him in when his gf that dasher said was amazing and would know if he was drinking, left him because he ended up almost dead and in rehab for drinking. She was shocked. How does a psychiatrist not know how addicts operate? They can be really good at hiding. I have a very successful Business all word of mouth no advertising where drs and therapists are my Clients and refer my services. no drs have diagnosed me with anything other than some bouts of depression. Just because someone has a college degree and great job and can lie well doesn’t make it ok to put children in danger. Very scary when you turn to a professional asking for help and this happens. Thank God my ex was not an evil man or control freak and I was able to take control of the situation and keep them safe. Because I’ve heard some terrible stories that happen due to court mistakes. This is what’s insane. This whole situation. Very sad. I refuse to lie even though this experience was traumatic. But it definitely pops in my head at times when I need to deal with people I thought could be trusted to do right in their profession. Does this person have any liability for these bad judgement calls? Or is it only the poor kids that suffer?"

"terrible. the most unprofessional therapist you can find. Horrible human being."