RELATIONAL LIFE COUNSELING

"My current therapist said I should report Kristen K and the manager who dismissed me. Sharing what I said in an individual appointment with my partner in his individual appointment is apparently wrong. Did you know? I did try to send an email about it but yall told me "some therapists are just not good fits for everyone" well my current therapist said while that is true. There is a certain amount of responsibility maybe your therapist should have been accountable for. Thanks for the therapy trauma I now have to work through:) 2 years of absolute joke work Kristen"

"For a number of years there was review here that said that Kristy fundamentally doesn't understand basic men's needs. Somehow that review is gone so I am posting my awful experience with her. In my case I was at my whits end with my partner who was going through menopause and seeing things that just weren't true. My ex thought that any and all conversations with anyone were somehow "cheating" or "intent" to cheat and was going a bit crazy and was subjecting me to it. Because I loved her and cared deeply for her, I stuck around. I found Kristy because she was on Terry Real's website so I assumed she had the capability to catch a curve ball. I trusted her because of her Terry Real certification (which it turns out is $5000 an some online training - Terry Real is so sadly, all about the $$). The bottom line is that if you are moderately upset or hostile with your partner in front of Kristy you will reminder her of her ex-husband who is a "narcissist" (and the father to her 4 children). If you convey basic male behavior of deep frustration then you are a "narcissist." If you explain your needs in a moderately complex manner or speak more than her in a conversation, it's "all about you" and therefore you are a "narcissist" as well. And that if you explain your needs, they actually aren't "needs." Kristy told my ex all of these. Kristy was even on the phone once for 20 minutes on hold so she could register one of her children in soccer camp during one of our fully-billed sessions. Because I am a kind person I somehow permitted it thought it was completely unprofessional. I'm all for deep and self reflective criticism. In fact I even internalized much of her criticism and even took some online tests, which showed that in no way, shape, or form, am I a narcissist. I even printed these off and showed her but it didn't sway Kristy at all. She told my ex in a seperate session that I was probably a narcissist. She also told my ex that I was "not believable" and that her paranoid dillusions were correct. And she is unaware that she fed a monster. For the next two years, every single man in my ex's universe. Her ex husband who would show up and help paint her rental properties and was and is a genuine kind person and excellent co parent, is a "narcissist." That her mother's longtime boyfriend who helper her build her own next egg after widowed, was a "narcissist." And that I was one too, of course. Simply for expressing my needs. Kirsty's criticism and approach were also that I was "not parented" (which is partly true) and that all aspects of the difficulty were 100% my fault. Which seems to be a common theme in her office. It's all about the men letting you down, and that women are not to be accountable. So in my opinion, Kristy is absolutely attrocious. Stay far far away. If you are a female looking for support on being a permanent victim, or seeking to avoid any accountability whatsoever (basically to feed your madness if you are acting in ways that might harm a relationship -- which is common in both genders and all humans), then Kristy will be great for you. Though in the end we only ended up seeing her maybe 5 times total, Kristy was absolutely destructive and critical in our relationship falling apart. We spoke about it for years afterwards. Kristy 100% had my spouses back and I was the problem. Truth is today I'm thankful as I found an incredible spouse who doesn't have these tendancies. We communicate and I can 100% be me, be 1000% deep and sincere and truly honest with ACTUAL Fiercy Intimacy (Terry Real's book). I'm down proud of that. But I will never be able to forget Kristy's role in the brutal destruction of our relationship. And I'm upset with myself more than anyone else that I allowed it to occur, but I was also checkmated. Again, if I vocalized myself then I was a "narcissist" and this 100% came from Kristy."

"I found Kristy to be an highly astute and experienced therapist who helped me through an incredibly difficult and complicated trauma situation that was impacting my life and relationships. Her RLT skills are on point and I would recommend her to any couple looking for a correction in their relationship. Thank you Kristy Gaisford for your immense help."